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Thursday, December 6, 2012

7 months on.....

My baby girl is 7 months old today. Its hard to believe she has been in our lives for such a short time, yet it seems so long! I already can't remember life without her in it!! She truly is a blessing and not a day goes by that myself or my husband look at her in pure amazement... she is perfect!

The past 7 months sure have had it's ups and downs but we have made it through. We now look to using one of our frosties in the future with the hope that we can extend our beautiful family with a sibling. I have an appointment with our fertility specialist next week to discuss the options available to us i.e. when we will do the FET, will I need to do a medicated cycle etc etc. I really don't know what to expect but it will be interesting to hear what they say and how we can increase our chances of success. At the same time if we don't have success we are 100% ok with this as we know we are already so lucky with our girl.

I am also nearing the end of maternity leave. The prospect of not spending each and every day with my girl is heartbreaking for me :( I know the extra cash will be great for us, especially if we were to get pregnant again, but to not watch my daughter grow and develop all the time truly makes me sad. Thankfully I know she knows how loved she is and if I were to have to put her into care she will be ok.

Sunday, May 13, 2012

Mothers Day

Every year I see this day come and go and wonder when will I get to celebrate in this special occasion??? A week ago the answer became clear....our wee miracle decided to come early!!!!


On Sunday 6th May 2012 at 11.17am our beautiful daughter was born at 37w 2d  following emergency Cesarean. She weighed 2770g (6lb 1oz), was 50cm, and the most beautiful thing we had ever seen.


So we have done it!!!! We are now parents, my dream of being a mummy is a reality. Its been a long road, so long that my little girl knew that mum needed a break and decided that she would be here in time for us to celebrate in mothers day.


In the week that she has been in our lives, she has enriched them so much more than we could ever imagine. We find ourselves just starring at her in pure wonderment. She is just so beautiful, perfect. She is very alert, loves to play with her hands, sleeps well and is a good feeder. We can see both of us in her - more me than my hubby but still, she is definately a creation of both of us.


The road to parent hood sure has been a hard path, and I know there will be hard roads ahead... but the first time I saw her, I was in love... and I would do it all over again.


Thank you for following me in my quest to become a mum. For those who are reading this blog, still waiting for your own miracle to happen.... don't give up. All the tears, heartache, time, pain, and every other emotion that has come with this journey has been hands down worth it. The love I have for my girl is like no other I have ever felt, and I know its the same for my husband.


We love our beautiful girl, now and for always.


Happy mothers day xxx

Thursday, May 3, 2012

36w 6d

We have a date!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


Bubs will be induced on the 16th May (38w 5d) if she doesn't make a surprise visit before then!!! It was a little longer than I was hoping, but she is growing so well in there the obstetrician didn't want to go too early (and hey, I gotta put my baby girl first). So the 16th it is!!! Its so nice to have a date :) Im so nervous, scared, excited....  but mostly I can't wait to meet her!!!


Countdown is well and truly on xx

Monday, April 30, 2012

36w 3d

As suspected, time is slowing down ha ha!!! I guess its to be expected, especially as labour, birth and meeting our wee girl is all I can think about now.


With reaching the 36week mark we have now started to hand express our colostrum to be able to give baby as soon as she is born. This is because she has a high risk of dropping her blood glucose levels once she is cut from the cord because of the GD. Its "liquid gold" and even the smallest amount is enough to help. While I have been taught the technique of doing the expressing, its really hard. I have only been able to get some very small amounts - and while they say that its ok to get just a very small amount, its hard not to feel like a failure. Im trying to not be hard on myself but I guess with any parenting, you only want the best.... I just have to remember that even the smallest amount is giving her the best!


Today I had a midwife appointment - im now down to weekly! We discussed what happens with the induction process. She said that I will likely start off with a balloon catheter to soften the cervix, then look at trying the gel to soften it, and then go on to the medical route. She said worse case scenario is that it can take up to 4 days (yikes) and if at this point there is still no baby, will look to a Cesarean. We discussed that while i'll try to go without the pain relief for a little bit (im thinking not that long), that logically induction is hard on the body so will then go to an epidural to help get through - especially if we are looking at the worse case scenario. And besides, I have had things hard throughout the pregnancy, if we can make something a little bit easier why not!!! Im still scared about the epidural tho - the thought of the needle in the spine is quite scary! We also talked about what to do in the event that I went into early labour, just to cover all bases :)


Its so surreal making plans and discussing through what to expect. This is just another of those moments that I have to pinch myself to believe its happening. Even when I look at my belly sometimes im like "wow is that really me??" The light at the end of the tunnel is becoming brighter. I just now need my induction date - bring on Thursday when hopefully the obstetricians play the game and give it to me!!!

Wednesday, April 25, 2012

35w 5d

Today it is officially 30 days until our due date!!!! Another milestone :)


The best thing though is it's even less until we meet our baby girl, hopefully just a couple of weeks or so!!! Girls who I met through a group of mums due in May are starting to have babies, its so incredibly exciting - it means my turn is not far away!!!


I was talking to my husband today about the significance of the month of May.... May 2009 was when we officially started trying and foolishly believed we had success first time ha ha - we hadn't even ovulated!!! (the beginning of things to come). May 2010 we had success with our first IUI, however that wasn't meant to be and we got our angel baby. And now in 2012, we are expecting our miracle IVF baby. Its been a long old road.... but we are almost there, we will soon get to hold our own baby. 


I still can't quite believe it. I feel like I have to pinch myself that IVF worked for us, and to work first attempt is just amazing. This road, while it has been incredibly painful and heartbreaking, it has brought me and my husband closer together. We know how blessed we are, and not a day goes by that im sure either of us forget this. This baby sure is going to be one loved and lucky girl!!!


Lets hope the final "2 week wait" until she is born isn't as long as the many countless 2 week waits we have endured to see if that month we have been successful... we already know we are xx

Monday, April 23, 2012

35w 3d

Its all getting closer now. Nerves are starting to kick in - how will I manage labour, birth, breastfeeding, being a mother! The whole unknown for someone who likes to plan is a little daunting, especially when a little life will be depending on me for everything.... I hope I don't let her down!!!


This last week has been super emotional for me - hormones have well and truly kicked up a notch! I discussed this with my midwife on Wednesday and she made me realise that its normal to feel like this. She said that my feelings of not enjoying the pregnancy and the guilt of this is super common for IVF pregnancies.... the feeling that you wanted this so much and the lengths taken to get there means you should be so happy right??!!! My midwife said that for any pregnancy its hard.... let alone dealing with what we have had to. She totally understood where I was coming from and made me feel ok for feelings like this. At the end of the day, I love my baby and can't wait to meet her and thats all that matters!!! It was just nice to get that validation that im "normal" and not just depressed.


We had a specialist and obstetrician appointment along with a scan on Thursday. Still not having enough carb to reply on for energy - who would of thought it would be so hard to up the carb intake!!! But other than that they seem happy with how im managing the diabetes. Scan was great - she is still measuring within normal range, currently weighing 5lb 15oz. We could see her face a little better this scan too which was exciting - if only we could see her in 4D so we could get an idea of who/what she looked like. I guess she wants to keep us waiting on that one...
I was a bit guttered that I didn't see the consultant obstetrician as I really wanted to talk about induction... the doctor I saw was rubbish, even asked me where I was birthing (um, in your hospital under your care... no choice on that one - surely you should know that). I tried to get across how important it was for me psychologically to get a date, especially as this has been a hard pregnancy. Initially she said I would be induced at 37weeks, then this changed for between 38-39weeks. So basically we are still none the wiser!!! We have another appointment in 2weeks where I will be insisting on a date.... im just working on that its about 3-4weeks to go!!! Please be the earlier option - im getting impatient ha ha!!!


Yesterday my husband and I went and hung in the baby's room. Our cat and dog followed us in there and we just sat around dreaming of the life thats about to come into our world - looking at her books we have, the decor. It was a lovely moment. We can't wait for our lives to change with this little life, she is already so precious to us - I can imagine we will just spend hours starring at her in disbelief that she is here finally!!! Its been a long 3 years but what a reward we will have soon enough xx

Sunday, April 15, 2012

34w 2d

Overwhelmed.


At many stages of this journey, there have been periods where I have felt overwhelmed.... I guess being told back in 2008 that it was likely I would struggle to have a baby was the first time. From there it was at every new stage - trying medications, our first assisted treatment (the IUI), learning about IVF and then going through it, the first stages of pregnancy when not knowing if it will last, every stage afterwards expecting it to be taken away, getting GD and having to deal with learning about that..... and now here I am.


Yesterday I had my baby shower. The build up for this has been huge for me. Firstly I feel guilty for the attention, its not who I am. But secondly its the flipside, people are there for us to celebrate in the success we have had and acknowledging that its been a tough journey to get here. I don't believe people fully understand the extend in how hard a road we have traveled, or are even still travelling... however they were there celebrating none the less.


As soon as people started arriving, I cried. I tried to hide it, not wanting to bring people down and of course wanting to have a good time myself. I managed to pull myself together and join the party. It was fun and I was enjoying myself. After a bit of food it was time to open the pressies... all eyes on me. I was so touched by how people spoiled this life growing inside of me. My husbands grandma knitted a beautiful cardi... cue tears. It didn't stop there.... Once I had opened all the gifts I wanted to thank everyone for being there and acknowledged how special our little girl was and that we feel so blessed after such a long time. More tears, this time not just from me.


Its a milestone, a baby shower. Its acknowledging that the end is almost here. Its been long and hard, but when we meet our precious wee girl we know it will be worth it, it already is.


I admit I haven't been enjoying these recent weeks of the pregnancy due to hormones, GD, SPD pain, fatigue etc etc.... but with 4-6 weeks to go I want to try and enjoy my final alone time with my wee girl before we embark on another journey.


Its been an incredible ride. I am blessed. I am lucky xx

Thursday, April 5, 2012

32w 6d

Well its been a full on week for me this week!!!


I started it off with Monday when I was feeling so completely emotional! I cried most of the day, it was so exhausting! The thing that was mostly getting me down was the feeling of being so overwhelmed by feeling so blah, tired, short of breath, and that everything is just getting so hard. Its such a conflicting thing - wishing away a pregnancy that I worked so hard to achieve... I feel guilty for this. I of course don't wish away the life that we have created however this pregnancy sure has been hard and as it turns out... isn't going to be getting any easier any time soon.


On Wednesday I saw my physio while I was at swimming and told her about this pain I have been getting in my left groin that has slowly been getting worse to the point that I now have pain 24hrs a day, walking is hard, and im finding it hard to sleep. She believes I have Symphysis Pubis Dysfunction (SPD). I now have an appointment with her next week where she will look to me trying some crutches to use for distance, and to also get a specific belt to help hold my pelvis together!! I advised my midwife of this new diagnosis and looks like it will effect my labour in terms of positions that I can be in - there are some I cant go into if im able to do a vaginal birth.....


And today I had a diabetes specialist appointment. I advised them of my sickly feeling along with the constant fatigue. They looked at my levels and 95% of the time I am achieving great levels... however im not eating enough! So because im not having enough to eat my body is starting to attack my protein levels to try and get some energy as I don't have enough carbs in my system. This is why I have been feeling so crap and lethargic!!!
So now I start on insulin, have to inject myself with every meal (as well as still take my metformin) and increase my meal size. The hope is I can still maintain my levels while getting more fuel into the system! And the bonus is I don't have to be so restrictive with what I eat!!! 


Fingers crossed that life will get easier and the remainder of this pregnancy is drama free.... the way its been thus far its hard to imagine that this will be the case. Just have to remember that she is worth it :)




Sunday, April 1, 2012

32w 2d

Today is April - I can officially say im having a baby next month!!! How exciting :)
I still have to pinch myself that this is happening after so long, but its definitely not an April Fools trick, its real. Its happening.


Im starting to think more and more about the birth - what will it be like, how long will it last, how will I cope. But overall im just so excited to meet her that all those thoughts are insignificant by comparison. No doubt I will start to talk with my midwife about our birth plan soon. From the beginning we always knew that our "plan" is to go with the flow in regards to pain relief - will go as long as I can without it but given I have no idea what to expect I figure its best to not have expectations! A safe and healthy delivery ultimately is my only goal.


The further I get into the pregnancy, the more I appreciate what others have been through. When I was in the depths of "trying" for a baby, I used to find it so frustrating to hear about people complaining about wanting the pregnancy over... I used to think that they should be just grateful that they are even pregnant! Now im in the same boat I find myself feeling guilty that I too have struggled with pregnancy and looking forward to the end (especially meeting my precious baby). It doesn't mean I don't appreciate the life growing inside of me, or that I was one of the lucky ones where IVF worked for me - I wouldn't change this for the world!!! But I don't think until you go through pregnancy that you fully appreciate the physical toll that it has on your body, one that you have no control over. Some people have it easier than others, some find they are ticking all the boxes in the column you don't necessary want to tick... but regardless its a huge undertaking!!


So I say I was wrong in my previous thoughts.... that ultimately stemmed from jealousy of wanting what they have. I now take my hat off to all the women out there who have been through a pregnancy, you are all amazing!!!

Friday, March 23, 2012

31weeks

I had a scan, physician and obstetrician appointment yesterday. So far all is looking well and she is within normal ranges so we are stoked!! They are happy with how things are progressing at this stage so the aim is still to be induced around 38-40weeks. There is still the plan that they won't let me go over our due date so we still have the definite end date.... now we just hope that things carry on going well. She is currently about 4lbs, they anticipate that if things carry on how they are that she will be about 7 1/2lbs when she is born if we go full term. So all in all im happy with that :)
Oh and the scan shows that she is not breech!!! She is actually head down so yay - stay that way baby girl!!!



I have just completed my first week of maternity leave. I have been surprised at how tired I am! I guess its due to stopping and my body realising it has time to catch up on some needed rest which has been good. So while I have been kept busy I have definitely been resting! Next week I plan to get onto my "To-Do List" of things before baby arrives.


Its also been a bit easier to manage my blood levels with not working. Still the odd spike here and there but all in all more stable and I can eat when I need to. Yesterday at the appointments they said I will end up on insulin as already on a high dose of metformin for my stage of pregnancy and the hormones get to a point when they plateau while on it and therefore the insulin is needed. Im ok with this, have already prepared myself for this envitibility. Besides, I started this pregnancy with jabs, may as well end it with them also :)


I started the pregnancy aqua classes with a girl who is due a few weeks ahead of me - its been nice! The water is quite relaxing and its good feeling like im doing some form of exercise, albeit gentle. Its good from the gestational diabetes side of things too, every little bit helps afterall. Even with the changes I have made to my diet I have somehow managed to lose 2kgs so that makes a total of 4kgs gained during this pregnancy thus far... gotta be happy with that!!


So its been a good week all up :)

Monday, March 19, 2012

30w 3d

Im officially on leave!!! I had my last day of work on Thursday - was quite surreal to be honest, just like any other day, nothing special. Probably because I go back in a weeks time for my work baby shower on what would have been my last week of work. I think it will be this week that it hits me that im done and not going back. Eek!!!


So this week I have a bit planned. A few catch-ups lunches with friends, I start my preggie swimming, and of course my appointments - today with our midwife and then on Thursday we have a growth scan and then meet the obstitrician and physician. Im also excited that today im going to start washing bubs clothes, can't wait to see them hanging up drying - so cute!!! Other than that I plan to rest up a bit :)


One of the downside of pregnancy has decided to hit me in the arse, literally. Hemorrhoids!!! Argh, talk about painful!!! It really is unpleasant :( Have got myself some cream so here's hoping that takes effect soon, I can't imagine lasting the rest of the pregnancy with this issue. 


From the gestational diabetes side of things.... hmm, this is not easy. Im getting anywhere from 1-3 high readings a day. Some of the time I can explain it, others I think im doing all the right things yet I still get a high reading so am baffelled. They have had to increase my metformin twice already. Soon I will run out of options with this and will have no choice but to go onto insulin. It really is a time consuming issue - im constantly thinking of food, timing of that food, and blood sugar levels. Im even more glad that im off work now so that I can focus on this more. I really am trying, afterall I want the best outcome for both me and bubs. And while its not for too much longer, it sure is hard and gets me down. Just gotta keep my eye on the prize!!!

Saturday, March 10, 2012

29w 1d

I had my first appointment with the diabetes specialist team on Thursday - met with the dietitian and specialist midwife. It was lots to take in and quite overwhelming, but really good at the same time. First I met with the dietitian and went through my diet. I was very honest about my eating and fortunately she felt my diet wasn't that bad! She said I didn't need to make too many changes, probably mostly to my breakfast as wasn't getting full enough. It was nice to get validation too that its not my fault, its just one of those things. Like she said, you can get ladies who eat crap throughout their entire pregnancies or really obese ladies and they don't get it... I had the risks and I did. She seemed to think that I will probably need to up my metformin dose and will likely end up on insulin in time but for now they just want to monitor my intake and blood sugar levels.


We then met with the specialist midwife and she taught me how to do my blood sugar levels which I will need to do 6 times a day (pre eating and then 1 hour post eating). On Monday they will call me to discuss my results since I saw them and then make the decision in regards to metformin levels. So far my levels have been quite stable, if anything im not eating enough so my levels are lower than what they recommend but all in all ok.


Im feeling ok about it all, just getting on with it all. At the end of the day the approach is more about prevention - we don't want bubs to get too big or unwell and so im taking the steps to ensure that is the case!!


Next step is we will have a scan and then meet with an obstetrician and then a physician. I will have regular appointments and scans with them until we birth so feel in good hands. 


So yea, just another hurdle in the road to get our baby... its not like we're not used to having to take the harder route to get the family which we so desperately want so for us this is just another step in that road. We will get through it, we are strong, and more importantly we will get our precious and healthy baby girl xx

Wednesday, March 7, 2012

28w 5d

So since my shock diagnoses I have been trying extra hard to watch what I eat - while I wasn't stuffing myself with crap food before I found out I have GD, I obviously need to make changes somewhere so im trying. Tomorrow im meeting with the specialist midwife and dietitian at women's hospital. I will learn how to do my own blood sugar levels, what I should be eating, risks etc... and I guess just any other general education about what this all means for me and our baby. My understanding is that following all this I will meet with the specialist obstetrician next week. I guess from tomorrow I will know more.


Had a midwife appointment on Monday - our wee girl is breech, she is sure keeping us on our toes!!! For now it doesn't mean too much, she has time to move into the correct position. If by 36weeks she is still breech will need to look at options such as attempting to physically turn her or opt for a cesarean. Not too worried about this at this point in time. Otherwise all was well. Have only put on 6kgs so im quite happy with that. She is only measuring a few days ahead so thats fine. All other checks were normal, just need to start taking an iron supplement as my levels were a little low.


Had our second antenatal class last night. So far im not seeing benefit from them as they haven't told me anything I didn't already know! We were hoping to use the classes as a means of meeting others due around the same time as us however so far it hasn't been all that social. Anyways, 4 more weeks of it so there is still time for people to come out of their shells!! Our educator isn't all that great to be honest either, she is very disorganised and dithery. She also has said a few things to get our backs up like how being pregnant is the most physiological normal thing and that every woman can do it.... a little wrong given it took science to help this baby be made! I just feel she should be a little more open to the ways in which some babies are made and not be so presumptuous!!!


My belly is moving so so much more now!!! Very large movements, some that actually catch me by surprise!! She is moving all the time now and even keeps me from going to sleep. I think my belly is rounding out more now too, sitting high... but to be honest I can't really tell ha ha!!! Just glad that all is well despite everything going on xx

Wednesday, February 29, 2012

27w 5d

Ok so turns out I was wrong..........


My glucose test shows that I do in fact have gestational diabetes :(
So I know I was at risk with the PCOS and family history, but I guess I just didn't think I would get it!! I don't seem to have any symptoms of it but as my midwife said you don't necessarily get any.


So what now??
My midwife has referred me to see a specialist - hopefully will get an appointment within the next week. Sounds like they get onto it quick smart. She also thinks I will likely go on insulin as im currently on metformin to help me not get GD.... lets hope they can just up my dose and I don't need to inject myself daily!!! Its a give-in now that I will have shared care. And according to my midwife the likely hood is I will be induced around 37-38 weeks... I guess the silver lining there is we get to meet our daughter sooner but hopefully fit and healthy without the risks associated with GD.



So not what we were expecting or hoping. I guess its good to know so I can be properly monitored. Im so scared of eating food though now - worried that im harming us both!! Will be good to talk with the dietitian and find out more. 


Feeling even more glad now that I brought my finishing date at work forward 2 weeks - will no doubt be busy with specialist appointments that I would just hate having to take time out from work all the time. So much for relaxing before she comes aye!!


Its hard not to feel like a failure though, like I have let us both down. I know its not my fault (or is it??) and that I was always at risk... I guess I just thought the tough road to get pregnant was my hard bit done, didn't want it to end on a hard note also :(

Sunday, February 26, 2012

27w 2d

Wow, time is flying by now!!!

Can't believe I am almost at the 3rd trimester mark, I truly feel blessed. Despite my own difficulties in conceiving, I am blessed and I know this. My heart breaks for those I know who have had failed attempts, I couldn't imagine the constant disappointment and the fading dream... I only hope they too hold onto hope and get their own special dream come true one day soon.



So for the last few weeks since my last update, lots have been going on. My baby girl is kicking quite often now - its a weird but amazing feeling!! I can even see her wriggling around in there. The best thing about her moving heaps now is that my hubby can feel her too. Its so special to share in that with him and see the joy on his face when he has those bonding moments with his daughter. I just love it!!


My tummy is nice and round, definitely looking quite pregnant now! Im getting comments of how big I am, but I think im not really - its just they way it looks when I stand as I hyperextend through my legs!! Got heaps more growing to do yet :)


Had my 2nd glucose tolerance test yesterday - it was alot harder than the one I did at 13 weeks, sitting for that long sure isn't comfortable!!! Will get the results this coming week. Im sure it will be fine. If anything, I think my iron levels will be low as im so fatigued. I guess time will tell!!


I have arranged with my work for me to finish work 2 weeks sooner than I had originally planned. Was a hard decision to make, but physically im struggling so much with working a busy physical job that it was bringing me down - I would have days when I would come home from work in tears because I was so sore and tired. While I knew carrying a bubba would be hard because of all my pain/back issues however I do think I underestimated how hard it would be. I guess its not until your in that position that you know exactly what the physical toll is!! So now im finishing at 30weeks!!! Not long to go now. I think its the best decision for me and my baby - I need to be well rested physically, and after the tough last few years it will be good to be rested emotionally. And hopefully I can be the best mummy possible to my special girl.


89 days to go to due date!!! So so excited!!! can't wait to meet you beautiful baby girl xx

Sunday, January 29, 2012

23w 2d

So im growing quite a bit now!!! Have had to change my uniform at work as was getting tight, getting constant comments about my belly. Its quite weird, the constant talk about my 'size'. I haven't yet had the random person come up and talk to me or touch me, thank goodness.... that will be a weird moment!!! ha ha


Our wee girl moves about heaps now. My hubby still hasn't felt the kicks - can't wait until he does! Its such a weird feeling, and I totally feel more connected with her since I can feel her in there. Im also wondering if im getting the occasional braxton hicks now - I get some very tight cramps below my belly, mostly when I stand up. They are quite painful and last for about a min or so. 


Our baby room is coming along - we have all the furniture now! We just need to dress it up with some colour and life. We don't want a typical 'pink' room but definitely want it too feel like a little girl lives in there, just not too over the top with girly-ness!!! Its so fun, we imagine her in our life all the time now. Imagine what she looks like, the traits she will have. We just can't wait to meet her!!!





Wednesday, January 18, 2012

21w 5d

The last 2 days I have been off work - I have been having headaches/migraines that won't go away. Its been like a constant band of throbbing across my head as well as up my neck to the base of my head. I tried things like panadol, panadiene and paracode. I have been sitting in a darkened room, and using a nice cold pack but it was still persisting. My midwife asked me to go to the GP so I did that today.


It wasn't my usual doctor that I saw unfortunately, but the outcome was that she believed it was related to muscular tension. Basically she said I need to find ways to relax more. I discussed that im getting exhausted with work etc and she said that won't be helping and to maybe consider cutting down work sooner than the 28week mark that we have planned. 


I spoke about this with my midwife and she agreed. I asked about the possibility of staying but doing lighter duties which she said is a possibility but would need to talk to my boss.... this could be a problem. I don't believe my boss would be understanding. I have said im struggling which is why I was dropping down to 4-day weeks from 28w onwards, but to say I need to do lighter duties I just don't think will go down well. I worry that if I did, work colleagues would resent me as they would need to pick up my workload. Or my boss says that they can't support that and force me to go on maternity leave sooner than I had planned (both financially and mentally). Argh!!! More stress for me to worry about!!!


My husband, and basically everyone else I talk to says that I need to put myself first. I just don't know how to do this! Im so worried about other people and their reactions and the extra load I put on them (including my husband who will be doing more at home). I know this is my time to be selfish, but I can't bear having to deal with other people's disappointments in me. It stresses me and worries me so much as it is!


I just don't know what to do. How can I last the rest of this pregnancy like this? How can I go on not changing the things that im struggling with?? How can I stop the tears of worry that I have??? I never ever thought my pregnancy would be like this :-(

Friday, January 13, 2012

21w

Wow, this whole being pregnant thing isn't easy at times!!!


Im finding it physically difficult at the moment - partly because of the heat, my job is physically demanding, and I have a chronic back pain issue that up until now hasn't really been too bad but has now kicked in. Not to mention these ongoing quakes that keep me awake at night, anxious that there might be more. All in all im feeling very fatigued, drained and tired! I had a melt down with my husband last night, said I wasn't coping and finding it hard. Not only physically but I also feel bad that im letting people down cos I can't do things i.e. work people, or that im not pulling my weight at home. My husband was totally understand however, said he will help me more at home (he already is helping).
In regards to work im planning my leave - im looking at dropping down to 4 days at work from 28 weeks, then from 32 weeks im on annual leave for 4 weeks before I start my official maternity leave at 36weeks. Its safe to say, I can't wait!!!


On a brighter note.... I have felt her kick!!! Like a proper kick!!! I have been feeling more active movements - like swirls or popping. But when I was getting my eyebrows waxed, she must have felt my pain and kicked out ha ha!! It felt like the twitch/spasm that I felt at my scan but there was more of them. Yay!!! Can't wait to feel her more and more, it makes me feel so much closer to her!!


Our nursery is slowly starting to come together. We are doing a bird theme - got the cutest quilt for the cot, I love it! I love buying stuff for her and imagining her either in the clothes or in her room. We are talking more and more about "wonder what she will look like" - its fun to imagine her before she arrives!!! Its so exciting, I can't wait!!!

Friday, January 6, 2012

20 weeks!!!!!!!

Wow, half way!!!! I can hardly believe it!!!! There are some moments when it feels like its taken forever (probably because I knew so early on) but then other times im amazed at how quickly it has gone!!!


I have got a true preggie belly now - no mistaking it! I enjoy that people know and look at it, makes me feel special. 


Im struggling a bit in the heat, mostly on the days I work as my job is so active. I go home with such hot puffy feet and feel very tired by the end of the day. Im counting down to maternity leave now - 12 weeks until a month of annual leave and then im on it!! Other than that im doing reasonably well. Haven't put on much weight and to be honest haven't gone "preggie feeding" - I haven't really felt more hungry than usual, just occasionally. I have also started to notice I am getting breathless easily, again mostly at work as its super active. But all in all, nothing to complain about :)


I have been feeling the odd wriggles but nothing really definite still - still don't know if its the baby or not but its fun thinking it is. I did have a moment where I had a twitch in my tummy and didn't think much of it... but it was during our anatomy scan and they mentioned "bubs just kicked, did you feel it?" So I have been waiting for more!! Can't wait until its constantly moving and then when my hubby can feel the kicks.


So our anatomy scan went well - all is well, very healthy and growing perfectly. We also found out who will be joining our family.......... a wee girl!!! We so can not wait to meet her, she is already the most precious thing in the world to us!!! Perfect in every way


Its all happening, its getting so exciting. We are building up our wee girls room and can't wait for her arrival.... but she still has some cooking to do yet ;)




Oh and happy new years everyone - I know that 2012 is going to be an amazing year xx